It’s that time of year again, when it feels like the whole world conspires to tell us we should be in a relationship. Along with Christmas and Mother’s Day, Valentine’s Day is one of the biggest consumer days of the year. Even the most intentionally and blissfully single ladies amongst us can get caught in the undertow of woulda-shoulda-coulda loneliness at this time. Well, guess what—it doesn’t have to be that way. Valentine’s Day is an opportunity to step into your power and create an experience that nurtures you exactly how you are. Consider the following:
Make a plan and stick to it.
Don’t make the mistake of waiting for an invitation to show up, or for some wonderful evening out to magically materialize. Figure out what your options are and commit yourself to a plan that works for you. The last thing you want to do is sit on the sofa at a loss for how to get through the evening.
Reframe what it means to celebrate love.
Love comes in all shapes and sizes. Our love for our friends, co-workers, family and pets are all worthy of celebrating. Seeing Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to love up the people/creatures in your life is a powerful place to be. Perspective is everything and from where I sit, lovers come and go, but your squad is forever.
The grass is not always greener.
It’s easy to look around and feel like the whole world is in love, and that you are the only one who is not in a relationship. I’m here to remind you that for all the people who find themselves alone on February 14th, there are an equal number who are mad at their partners. If you’re going to compare yourself to others, at least be realistic in your assessment! Relationships can be wonderful, but they can also be hard work. It might be worth celebrating your freedom and sovereignty this year.
Be your own Valentine.
Go ahead. Buy yourself flowers and chocolate. Or that pair of earrings you’ve been longing for. Valentine’s Day is certainly about more than showering your loved one with material things, however, that is one part of the tradition. And if you find yourself without a partner to appreciate you in this way, it’s perfectly acceptable to do it yourself! You might even gift wrap your own gift so you can open it and act surprised.
Write a love letter to yourself.
I know, I know, this sounds really goofy, but trust me, there’s something very powerful about articulating what you love about yourself. Taking some time on Valentine’s Day to meditate on all the qualities that you’ve worked so hard to cultivate, or all the natural gifts you’ve been given by the universe, is a heartwarming way to spend the evening. And if you are too squirmy to love yourself too hard, try writing a list of things you are grateful for in your life. It’s really all the same, anyway.
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