Today’s post touches on a topic a lot of of women grapple with—trying to do it all, but in the process, losing ourselves. Jordan Lee Dooley spends her days helping woman all over the world, but forgot to take care of #1—herself. However, with some guidance, refocusing and self-care, it looks as though 2019 is going to be her best year ever.
In September of 2018, I was so burned out that I almost quit everything—it was bad. At first, I couldn’t figure out why I felt so overwhelmed, irritated, and exhausted. If I looked at my life through a snapshot, I wasn’t doing too bad.
We had just bought our first house. I had just finished my book manuscript. I worked out a few times each week (albeit irregularly). I didn’t eat junk food all the time. I was running my own business and therefore had a job that I really liked.
However, the closer I looked, the more I realized how many things I’d been doing that were quite harmful. For example, I had a very irregular workout schedule. I had no routine when it came to sleep. I worked too many hours, likely because I wasted hours on social media.
All of this took a toll on my finances, my marriage, my ability to lead a team, my health, my personal faith, and more. And in the fall of 2018, I burned out. That’s when I wanted to quit everything – even the things I really loved.
So, I took a few weeks off of work and social media. A phrase that kept coming to me was “Back to the Basics.” Around that time, I met with a friend for coffee and she told me about a season of her life where she experienced the same kind of anxiety and stress.
She explained to me the idea of a target: “When I get too focused on the outer ring (the big projects, things people can see), I’m usually not hitting the target of what matters most. But I’ve found that when I take care of the small, internal, unseen things…when I hit the target with my daily disciplines and boundaries, my marriage, and my personal faith, the bigger and more obvious things inevitably thrive because I’m working from a place of overflow, not exhaustion.”
That’s exactly what I had been doing. I was so focused on the outer ring that I had failed to hit the target with the most important things: my marriage, my home, my time management, and other disciplines.
So, the last few months of my 2018 were focused on getting back to the basics. I decluttered my house. I created routines—consistent bedtime, workout schedules, daily routines, and more. These small changes have helped my team, my marriage, my mental clarity, and more.
There is still a lot of work to do, but in 2019 I plan on not only getting back to the basics, but on sticking to the basics, because they’re the things that help us thrive.